There are times when the only triumph within reach is survival.
Public expressions of gratitude are de rigueur in America: "I'm grateful for the opportunity to..." is one of the first lines of any public pronouncement: to serve the public, to play on this professional sports team, and so on.
In other words, giving thanks, as with many other virtues, has suffered from inflation driven by commoditized media over-exposure and and vacuous virtue-signaling.
Sincere gratitude is a good thing. Marcus Aurelius devoted the entire first chapter of his
Meditations to expressing his heartfelt gratitude to everyone who taught him core values and shared their experiential wisdom with him.
But if you happen to awaken and discover you've been transmogrified into a six-foot cockroach, gratitude doesn't flow very freely. This is the plot of Franz Kafka's famous story The Metamorphosis.
Glamorous Hardship--that experienced by extreme nature photographers, celebrities, etc.--offers opportunities for expressions of gratitude: I want to thank my fans for their support during this time, it was dicey outrunning the avalanche, but I'm grateful I got the images, and so on.
Unglamorous Hardship--the kind most of us experience--is less conducive to gratitude: I'm grateful that my business collapsed, I'm grateful I had to quit my job to take care of aging parents /in-laws, etc.
I'm grateful for the opportunity to be a repulsive, grotesque six-foot cockroach--well, actually, not so much. I'd rather have the run-of-the-mill Unglamorous Hardships of chronic illness, having to drop everything to help an injured loved one, bankruptcy, burnout, and so on.
There are times when the only triumph within reach is survival-- the Triumph of Survival. To have dodged an endless volley of the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, to have endured an endless full-court press of misfortune and survive--this is a triumph worthy of gratitude.
In my own life, these periods tend to last a biblical seven years each--seven years in which the hits keep coming, respite is brief before yet another life crisis comes ashore and life shrinks down to the day-by-day goal of survival. Everything is a struggle, and virtually every project disappoints or fails. Success boils down to surviving this hit and picking oneself up to absorb the next one.
This is why the Stoics valued gratitude so highly. There are eras of misfortune and failure in which maintaining high expectations only increase our suffering and self-pity. Better to need little and expect the exhaustion of good fortune to continue, and to understand that gratitude is best savored in very small portions.
"Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours." Marcus Aurelius
"The whole universe is change and life itself is but what you deem it - either gratefully better than or bitterly worse than something else that you alone choose." Marcus Aurelius
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